CHAPTER 1
A WIFE’S PURPOSE
God’s original purpose for creating a woman was so that man (Adam) would have a companion to
share his life with. Secondly, her purpose was to populate the earth with people made in the
image of God. (Genesis 2:20-25).
We all want someone to share life’s experiences with. Adam was no different. All the animals had
a mate to share life with, but not Adam. He had no one to laugh with, become joyful with, play
with in the Garden of Eden, and no one to encourage him. For example when he was naming the
animals, there was no one there to say, “hey, that was a really great name for that animal calling
him a zebra, it looks like a zebra!”
It is so much easier to work at a job for 8 hours a day and then come home to someone who really
appreciates the fact that you went to work for them. Our men need this. They are just as
insecure as we are and it is not in their nature to express those feelings. So they need someone
with insight who can see and under gird those things that they do for us or on our behalf with
appreciation and praise. Adam needed someone to say, “That’s great honey!” Do YOU like to be
appreciated verbally? Sure you do, and so do they.
So God put Adam to sleep and then took one of his ribs from his side. The word RIB= side. God
did take one of Adam’s ribs to create woman from and thus women are a literal part of man.
The male has the macho part of his nature which enables him to work and toil, till the soil, be
brave and courageous, to be strong physically, fight lions and bears (or traffic and etc today) and
to protect us. Thank God for these qualities that He gave to men. We are there beside them to
encourage and love and appreciate them for these qualities. When we appreciate them and what
they are doing, it seems like they are also relieved of physical stress and tension by our love and
concern. They need to come home to be loved by and appreciated. They need to feel needed
and wanted. They need to have a home to look forward to coming home to at the end of the day
to receive him. If it is possible in your situation, have a nice meal for him to look forward to.
This may seem like little things, but they are the little things that God uses to refurbish and rebuild
his LIFE up with. These are the kinds of things that make life bearable the next day, because
here is someone who really cares about me and getting me ready to go out there and do it all over
again he thinks in his mind.
Many broken marriages come from women who feel they have a demeaning role in life. They do
not realize that they possess special qualities put into them by God in order to fulfill their role as
wives; which is so great and important, and which God wants to use to give to others, particularly
their husband. Just knowing there is someone at home caring to prepare a favorite meal does far
more for your man than any meal ever did for his stomach.
Of course, in today’s society where most women have to work, it cannot always be this way, but
we women still need to find ways to make our men feel welcome, loved and appreciated.
It is a supernatural ministry that we have which is expressed in these little ways. We must weigh
what we call menial tasks against college degrees. The world sees the degrees, titles, large
amounts of wages earned. The world does not see things the same way that God sees them.
Those menial ways of giving of ourselves are the things that prove to the people that you are
endeavoring to minister to, that you really do CARE! It is the CARE that touches the person’s
heart. It takes food to keep the person alive, but it’s the care that brings the person we love to
fulfillment.
In this passage one of the greatest things that God ever did was take woman out of Adam. He
could have formed her right before His eyes, but Adam would never, ever have the same feelings
for her that he did if she wasn’t from himself (a part of him).
Possibly the process was not without pain to Adam. After surgery it takes awhile for the place that
was cut open to feel right again. If a rib is taken out of our side, there is soreness. So perhaps
she became all the more dear to him if he were a bit sore. Just like in childbirth, the pain causes
us to have a bonding with the child because of all that we went through to have the child.
God call Eve woman because she was taken out of the man. God went on to say, “therefore shall
a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh!” It
is very important when someone is actually a part of us.
When a man a woman are both functioning in one accord, each one fulfilling his or her role that
God gave them to fulfill, it is a beautiful and rewarding thing. The protective role that God put into
a man to take care of and protect his wife and children happens, and the woman loves, cares for
and ministers to her husband’s needs. Each one possessing qualities that the other will never
possess, and that unless we both give to one another what we have, we can never become one.
We need to see that being these to our husbands is a strength to our own nation, as we are
willing to see ourselves as willing to GIVE of ourselves in these ways. God is then able to use
these things to make strong men and women in generations to come.
There is great power in Prayer! Do you believe God hears you and hears you the first time? If
so, then when you see something in Scripture that needs to be changed in your home, come to
the Lord and say, “Lord I am willing to change but I ask You to speak through my husband and
show us how to work it out.”
This exhibits faith in the Lord, and trust that He will work through your husband as head of the
family. But remember, if your husband does bring up that very subject that you were praying
about, don’t boast that you knew about it first. Let him be the one who came up with the idea, and
then thank the Lord that He answered your prayers. See we have a behind the scenes role ---
your comforting him, preparing for him and loving him all seem to be a behind the scene role.
God has a perceptiveness built in us women that He wants to use to inspire, motive and
encourage our husbands to become what God wants our husbands to become and to assume
their rightful role. Our inner perceptiveness that God give to us is something He uses as
appropriate help mates for them.
We need their strengths (because remember we are created as a “weaker vessel” than they are).
We need their qualities for our well being, and they need certain qualities that we have to give to
them for their well being as well. He has needs that only YOU, his wife, can give to him. You are
not giving to him things that you do for him, or help him with, or prepare for him, in order to
manipulate him to get what you want. You are using your gifts to minister to him because you
love him and want to give your gifts to him even as he gives his gifts and ministries to you. That
keeps our minds in proper perspective.
The word Help Meet in Hebrew:
= 2 Words = qualified (suitable)
fitting
proper
right
for the man of your life --- and each one is different. So there are women with different gifts and
abilities to meet the needs of each husband in a different way.
The Rib On A Boat:
The rib on a boat helps it to weather the storm. In calamity the woman’s tenderness strengthens
the man and helps to keep him from breaking down. God made you a strong support! According
to the particular needs of your husband.
What God wants from Us:
He wants us to be someone to make the marriage be worthwhile. Proverbs 12:4 says, “A virtuous
woman is a crown to her husband.” Virtuous means patterned her life after God’s pattern for her
life.
Bone of my Bone:
Equals the moral structure a person. If we humiliate them, they can turns hard and tuff. God’s
woman is on her husband’s side! We must realize how really ONE we are with him. Do you
believe this is true? KNOW it, conceive it as with pregnancy. We must let this concept take birth
in us. In so doing, this belief takes hold in our hearts and begins to grow. We can either conceive
the truth or be exposed to it. Are we going to walk the will of God for a woman or just be exposed
to it?
Let us lay hold of these truths, seeing ourselves and our roles in a new light, and seeing our
husbands in a new light as well. No longer to be criticized, no longer to condemned, but to
appreciated, loved, complimented and built up with our words and our deeds towards them. With
our attitudes being that which we had when we first married them.
The man was created to be the Priest of the home and he is not able to be this unless the woman
creates an atmosphere in which this can happen. He was created for this purpose, and we want
to be used by the Lord to encourage them and help them achieve their highest goal in life.
A WIFE’S PURPOSE
God’s original purpose for creating a woman was so that man (Adam) would have a companion to
share his life with. Secondly, her purpose was to populate the earth with people made in the
image of God. (Genesis 2:20-25).
We all want someone to share life’s experiences with. Adam was no different. All the animals had
a mate to share life with, but not Adam. He had no one to laugh with, become joyful with, play
with in the Garden of Eden, and no one to encourage him. For example when he was naming the
animals, there was no one there to say, “hey, that was a really great name for that animal calling
him a zebra, it looks like a zebra!”
It is so much easier to work at a job for 8 hours a day and then come home to someone who really
appreciates the fact that you went to work for them. Our men need this. They are just as
insecure as we are and it is not in their nature to express those feelings. So they need someone
with insight who can see and under gird those things that they do for us or on our behalf with
appreciation and praise. Adam needed someone to say, “That’s great honey!” Do YOU like to be
appreciated verbally? Sure you do, and so do they.
So God put Adam to sleep and then took one of his ribs from his side. The word RIB= side. God
did take one of Adam’s ribs to create woman from and thus women are a literal part of man.
The male has the macho part of his nature which enables him to work and toil, till the soil, be
brave and courageous, to be strong physically, fight lions and bears (or traffic and etc today) and
to protect us. Thank God for these qualities that He gave to men. We are there beside them to
encourage and love and appreciate them for these qualities. When we appreciate them and what
they are doing, it seems like they are also relieved of physical stress and tension by our love and
concern. They need to come home to be loved by and appreciated. They need to feel needed
and wanted. They need to have a home to look forward to coming home to at the end of the day
to receive him. If it is possible in your situation, have a nice meal for him to look forward to.
This may seem like little things, but they are the little things that God uses to refurbish and rebuild
his LIFE up with. These are the kinds of things that make life bearable the next day, because
here is someone who really cares about me and getting me ready to go out there and do it all over
again he thinks in his mind.
Many broken marriages come from women who feel they have a demeaning role in life. They do
not realize that they possess special qualities put into them by God in order to fulfill their role as
wives; which is so great and important, and which God wants to use to give to others, particularly
their husband. Just knowing there is someone at home caring to prepare a favorite meal does far
more for your man than any meal ever did for his stomach.
Of course, in today’s society where most women have to work, it cannot always be this way, but
we women still need to find ways to make our men feel welcome, loved and appreciated.
It is a supernatural ministry that we have which is expressed in these little ways. We must weigh
what we call menial tasks against college degrees. The world sees the degrees, titles, large
amounts of wages earned. The world does not see things the same way that God sees them.
Those menial ways of giving of ourselves are the things that prove to the people that you are
endeavoring to minister to, that you really do CARE! It is the CARE that touches the person’s
heart. It takes food to keep the person alive, but it’s the care that brings the person we love to
fulfillment.
In this passage one of the greatest things that God ever did was take woman out of Adam. He
could have formed her right before His eyes, but Adam would never, ever have the same feelings
for her that he did if she wasn’t from himself (a part of him).
Possibly the process was not without pain to Adam. After surgery it takes awhile for the place that
was cut open to feel right again. If a rib is taken out of our side, there is soreness. So perhaps
she became all the more dear to him if he were a bit sore. Just like in childbirth, the pain causes
us to have a bonding with the child because of all that we went through to have the child.
God call Eve woman because she was taken out of the man. God went on to say, “therefore shall
a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh!” It
is very important when someone is actually a part of us.
When a man a woman are both functioning in one accord, each one fulfilling his or her role that
God gave them to fulfill, it is a beautiful and rewarding thing. The protective role that God put into
a man to take care of and protect his wife and children happens, and the woman loves, cares for
and ministers to her husband’s needs. Each one possessing qualities that the other will never
possess, and that unless we both give to one another what we have, we can never become one.
We need to see that being these to our husbands is a strength to our own nation, as we are
willing to see ourselves as willing to GIVE of ourselves in these ways. God is then able to use
these things to make strong men and women in generations to come.
There is great power in Prayer! Do you believe God hears you and hears you the first time? If
so, then when you see something in Scripture that needs to be changed in your home, come to
the Lord and say, “Lord I am willing to change but I ask You to speak through my husband and
show us how to work it out.”
This exhibits faith in the Lord, and trust that He will work through your husband as head of the
family. But remember, if your husband does bring up that very subject that you were praying
about, don’t boast that you knew about it first. Let him be the one who came up with the idea, and
then thank the Lord that He answered your prayers. See we have a behind the scenes role ---
your comforting him, preparing for him and loving him all seem to be a behind the scene role.
God has a perceptiveness built in us women that He wants to use to inspire, motive and
encourage our husbands to become what God wants our husbands to become and to assume
their rightful role. Our inner perceptiveness that God give to us is something He uses as
appropriate help mates for them.
We need their strengths (because remember we are created as a “weaker vessel” than they are).
We need their qualities for our well being, and they need certain qualities that we have to give to
them for their well being as well. He has needs that only YOU, his wife, can give to him. You are
not giving to him things that you do for him, or help him with, or prepare for him, in order to
manipulate him to get what you want. You are using your gifts to minister to him because you
love him and want to give your gifts to him even as he gives his gifts and ministries to you. That
keeps our minds in proper perspective.
The word Help Meet in Hebrew:
= 2 Words = qualified (suitable)
fitting
proper
right
for the man of your life --- and each one is different. So there are women with different gifts and
abilities to meet the needs of each husband in a different way.
The Rib On A Boat:
The rib on a boat helps it to weather the storm. In calamity the woman’s tenderness strengthens
the man and helps to keep him from breaking down. God made you a strong support! According
to the particular needs of your husband.
What God wants from Us:
He wants us to be someone to make the marriage be worthwhile. Proverbs 12:4 says, “A virtuous
woman is a crown to her husband.” Virtuous means patterned her life after God’s pattern for her
life.
Bone of my Bone:
Equals the moral structure a person. If we humiliate them, they can turns hard and tuff. God’s
woman is on her husband’s side! We must realize how really ONE we are with him. Do you
believe this is true? KNOW it, conceive it as with pregnancy. We must let this concept take birth
in us. In so doing, this belief takes hold in our hearts and begins to grow. We can either conceive
the truth or be exposed to it. Are we going to walk the will of God for a woman or just be exposed
to it?
Let us lay hold of these truths, seeing ourselves and our roles in a new light, and seeing our
husbands in a new light as well. No longer to be criticized, no longer to condemned, but to
appreciated, loved, complimented and built up with our words and our deeds towards them. With
our attitudes being that which we had when we first married them.
The man was created to be the Priest of the home and he is not able to be this unless the woman
creates an atmosphere in which this can happen. He was created for this purpose, and we want
to be used by the Lord to encourage them and help them achieve their highest goal in life.
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