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CHAPTER 7
MISCELLANEOUS SUBJECTS
Communication Is:
1. very important to keep the marriage happy
2. talk to him at the right times
3. and allow him the freedom to disagree with you
4. ask him what his thoughts are on the subject and don’t try to TELL him what they should be according
to you)
5. go to him for decisions:
a. he’ll learn to become spiritual and lead
b. YOU learn to follow him
c. give him room to make mistakes
There are different ways to communicate:
1. just being in the same room together, not necessarily talking
2. sharing an event, a revelation or something special
3. going out together without the children, having time to walking arm in arm, or holding hands and being
alone
If your upset over a situation:
1. wait until you’ve cooled down
2. come to him calmly & collectively
3. present your case
4. wait for his comments
5. a lot of times it is just a miscommunication or misunderstanding, or something that he did not realize
6. You’ll feel so much better and
a. you didn’t sin or demand
b. you didn’t hurt him in anger
c. you didn’t lose your temper and rant and rave
d. you did it in the Godly way, and pleased the Lord
IN PUBLIC:
Let your husband be the leader. Don’t take over the conversation and do all the talking. He appears weak and
you appear too strong when this happens. And NEVER correct him in public, even if he slips on a fact or two.
So what! The moon may be yellow to us, but maybe that night he saw it as blue. So what! I have seen so many
women correct their husbands about every little thing their husbands say, and first of all it looks terrible to the
people watching, and secondly it demeans him in front of others and he wishes he could crawl in a hole and die.
Be courteous and be a lady who shows graciousness. Graciousness is a quality that is so lacking in our society
today. How many “ladies” do you know today? Let us each try to be one and show grace and courtesy and self
control in our mannerism. If we possess these qualities in our own lives then we will be able to teach these
virtues to our children as well, and they will see us as their example.
JEALOUSLY:
This is our opportunity to die to self, if we will take it and not run from the opportunity. Sweetly let him know how
you feel and examine yourself to see if you are wrong. If you are jealous, DIE and pray about it until the victory
comes. I find that when I am jealous or when any other sin crops up in my mind, I have to do spiritual warfare
over that thought and DIE to it. I have to yield to the Holy Spirit, bite my tongue and attitude, and pray for victory.
God hears our prayers and WILL answer them; especially when we are crying out for His help to overcome a sin
our lives.
POSSESSIVENESS:
Let him go and as you let him go he will come back to you. A man hates to feel smothered and controlled by his
woman. He wants to feel free and choose to come to you, to be with you, to do things for you. Not feel like he
HAS TO!
Again the same remedy is the same. Prayer is the answer and repentance. By confessing our sins before God,
and crying out for His help. Then the Holy Spirit gives us the power to “become the sons of God” and gives us
the power to overcome our sins. And then we find that possessiveness, jealousy, lovelessness, crankiness, and
any other sin that we may struggle with begins to gradually (or overnight sometimes) lessen until it doesn’t seem
like it’s there any more. This is the victory we can have through Jesus Christ our Lord!
Oh how I love Him so much, and am so thankful that I am His. I don’t know how the world gets through this life
without His love, guidance and protection. Well, they don’t, very well.
MISCELLANEOUS SUBJECTS
Communication Is:
1. very important to keep the marriage happy
2. talk to him at the right times
3. and allow him the freedom to disagree with you
4. ask him what his thoughts are on the subject and don’t try to TELL him what they should be according
to you)
5. go to him for decisions:
a. he’ll learn to become spiritual and lead
b. YOU learn to follow him
c. give him room to make mistakes
There are different ways to communicate:
1. just being in the same room together, not necessarily talking
2. sharing an event, a revelation or something special
3. going out together without the children, having time to walking arm in arm, or holding hands and being
alone
If your upset over a situation:
1. wait until you’ve cooled down
2. come to him calmly & collectively
3. present your case
4. wait for his comments
5. a lot of times it is just a miscommunication or misunderstanding, or something that he did not realize
6. You’ll feel so much better and
a. you didn’t sin or demand
b. you didn’t hurt him in anger
c. you didn’t lose your temper and rant and rave
d. you did it in the Godly way, and pleased the Lord
IN PUBLIC:
Let your husband be the leader. Don’t take over the conversation and do all the talking. He appears weak and
you appear too strong when this happens. And NEVER correct him in public, even if he slips on a fact or two.
So what! The moon may be yellow to us, but maybe that night he saw it as blue. So what! I have seen so many
women correct their husbands about every little thing their husbands say, and first of all it looks terrible to the
people watching, and secondly it demeans him in front of others and he wishes he could crawl in a hole and die.
Be courteous and be a lady who shows graciousness. Graciousness is a quality that is so lacking in our society
today. How many “ladies” do you know today? Let us each try to be one and show grace and courtesy and self
control in our mannerism. If we possess these qualities in our own lives then we will be able to teach these
virtues to our children as well, and they will see us as their example.
JEALOUSLY:
This is our opportunity to die to self, if we will take it and not run from the opportunity. Sweetly let him know how
you feel and examine yourself to see if you are wrong. If you are jealous, DIE and pray about it until the victory
comes. I find that when I am jealous or when any other sin crops up in my mind, I have to do spiritual warfare
over that thought and DIE to it. I have to yield to the Holy Spirit, bite my tongue and attitude, and pray for victory.
God hears our prayers and WILL answer them; especially when we are crying out for His help to overcome a sin
our lives.
POSSESSIVENESS:
Let him go and as you let him go he will come back to you. A man hates to feel smothered and controlled by his
woman. He wants to feel free and choose to come to you, to be with you, to do things for you. Not feel like he
HAS TO!
Again the same remedy is the same. Prayer is the answer and repentance. By confessing our sins before God,
and crying out for His help. Then the Holy Spirit gives us the power to “become the sons of God” and gives us
the power to overcome our sins. And then we find that possessiveness, jealousy, lovelessness, crankiness, and
any other sin that we may struggle with begins to gradually (or overnight sometimes) lessen until it doesn’t seem
like it’s there any more. This is the victory we can have through Jesus Christ our Lord!
Oh how I love Him so much, and am so thankful that I am His. I don’t know how the world gets through this life
without His love, guidance and protection. Well, they don’t, very well.
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