Chapter 3
CREATING AN ATMOSPHERE OF LOVE
Creating an atmosphere of love, joy, peace and contentment is so very important for a happy
home. “Godliness with contentment is of great price.” These attitudes are picked up by other
family members and they behave differently.
Fighting amongst the parents can create insecurity and inner problems in children. Babies cry a lot
more, some need security blankets, chew things, and display their insecurities in various ways,
because they sense and pick up the unrest, turmoil and lack of peace in the home.
Our sins affect our children. They tend to whine more, be fussy or complain. I found out that when
I had one of my sons, he was eighteen months at the time, that I was complaining a lot and had a
negative attitude about a lot of things. I notice that this particular son was starting to complain a lot
too (by being fussy and dissatisfied), whereas he had always been a very contented child. I put the
two things together, and saw that my attitude had directly affected my child. So I had to repent and
as soon as I did, my son stopped as well. But they can also pick up our good attitudes and exhibit
these as well. Oh God is SOOO Good!
“A wise woman builds her house; a foolish one tears it down” (Prov 14:1).
“It is better to live in a corner of an attic than with a crabby woman in a lovely home” (Prov 21:9).
“It is better to live in the desert than with a quarrelsome complaining woman” (Prov 21:19).
Outward things like music playing, having a clean house, a graciously served meal, looking our
best for our families, having the table set nice for everyone to eat at, candles burning can all create
a lovely outward atmosphere for our homes. But first there must be a peace on the inside of us.
We must have a settled, content and self controlled spirit within us in order to bring this about.
These fruits of the Holy Spirit which are mentioned in Galatians will be picked up by others and
affect them greatly.
God’s love is shown through us every time we exhibit a fruit of the Spirit. This requires keeping our
hearts and minds stayed on Him so that these fruits will automatically come out. Children learn how
to react and respond to situations from their teachers (us). When children see the fruit of the Spirit
(spoken of in Galatians) manifested towards temptations that we are tempted with, they know how
to handle their own temptations better. Children become like their teachers (us). Once there was a
very long gas line in the 70’s and people had to wait for more than an hour in line to get some gas.
Some people became very upset at the wait and tempers began to fly. Rudeness set in, cars tried
to cut in front of each other and so on. But as children sat in the cars waiting as well, they would
see first hand either people yielding to sins and stress, or yielding to the Holy Spirit who would
bring peace in the midst of the trial. That is what we want to exhibit to our children, that example of
peace. Our children are our disciples. We need to become better disciples of Jesus so that we
can manifest love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, self-control which are all
fruits of the Spirit.
Older women are to teach the younger women. Disciple them to love their husbands and their
children, to be keepers of the home and obedient to their husbands.
Children are used as instruments by God to convict us at times. Sometimes it comes as a direct
word. Like, they may say something to us that we do not like to hear, but they are speaking
innocently by observing a wrong characteristic in us. They are not intentionally being disrespectful
at times, but their observation sometimes just blurts out. We then at that point need to stake stock
and listen to what they just said. Asking ourselves, is that really what I am doing, said, think,
behave like? We should not always harden our hearts because they are children, and children are
not supposed to say anything to their parents that might convict them. When we are wrong, we
need to recognize it, repent and apoligize.
They may be an EXAMPLE to us through their right conduct and bring conviction to our hearts. We
see their purity of motive, their unselfishness and perhaps their generosity, which might convict us if
we struggle in any of these areas.
All parents wrong their children in one way or another. We all say things out of a mean spirit
sometimes that hurt them, and sometimes we misjudge their motives for doing something. When
we do either of these things, we must be quick to repent, not only to the Lord but also to the child
that we have hurt. We need to not only pray for forgiveness for our sin, but also that God will erase
the damage we did to the child’s heart, if any, so the child will not be permanently affected by our
action or words. He will if we pray, repent and ask Him to. He is a very good Forgiver of those who
ASK. Children are very forgiving as well and they will also learn what to do when they make
mistakes or hurt someone themselves. They will learn to ask for forgiveness from God and from
others also. Because they see our humility in asking for forgiveness a deeper closeness can
develop between the two of you. We expect our children to apologize when they do things that are
wrong don’t we, well, so should we apologize to them if we have wronged them as well. Fruits of
the Spirit can grow in us as this type of honesty and humility is exhibited.
Pray for guidance and wisdom. Solomon prayed that he might be able to have wisdom and an
understanding heart in order to rule his people well. God gave him both, and He will give us the
same thing if we pray for it. James says, “If any man lack wisdom let Him ask of God.” We need to
do this in order to handle each situation that comes our way with God’s wisdom. We also need to
learn to be flexible in methods of training and yield to His leading as He shows us how to parent our
children. It is one of the hardest things we will ever do, being a parent, because it requires so much
WISDOM that we lack in the natural, but with God’s help, we can be instruments in HIS hands to
raise these children for Him and His glory!
All of these things are part of creating a home with an atmosphere of love, peace, joy and
contentment amongst the family members, and you have a very big role in this.
May the Lord bless and guide you as you pray for His help to create (build) your home for Him and
His glory.
CREATING AN ATMOSPHERE OF LOVE
Creating an atmosphere of love, joy, peace and contentment is so very important for a happy
home. “Godliness with contentment is of great price.” These attitudes are picked up by other
family members and they behave differently.
Fighting amongst the parents can create insecurity and inner problems in children. Babies cry a lot
more, some need security blankets, chew things, and display their insecurities in various ways,
because they sense and pick up the unrest, turmoil and lack of peace in the home.
Our sins affect our children. They tend to whine more, be fussy or complain. I found out that when
I had one of my sons, he was eighteen months at the time, that I was complaining a lot and had a
negative attitude about a lot of things. I notice that this particular son was starting to complain a lot
too (by being fussy and dissatisfied), whereas he had always been a very contented child. I put the
two things together, and saw that my attitude had directly affected my child. So I had to repent and
as soon as I did, my son stopped as well. But they can also pick up our good attitudes and exhibit
these as well. Oh God is SOOO Good!
“A wise woman builds her house; a foolish one tears it down” (Prov 14:1).
“It is better to live in a corner of an attic than with a crabby woman in a lovely home” (Prov 21:9).
“It is better to live in the desert than with a quarrelsome complaining woman” (Prov 21:19).
Outward things like music playing, having a clean house, a graciously served meal, looking our
best for our families, having the table set nice for everyone to eat at, candles burning can all create
a lovely outward atmosphere for our homes. But first there must be a peace on the inside of us.
We must have a settled, content and self controlled spirit within us in order to bring this about.
These fruits of the Holy Spirit which are mentioned in Galatians will be picked up by others and
affect them greatly.
God’s love is shown through us every time we exhibit a fruit of the Spirit. This requires keeping our
hearts and minds stayed on Him so that these fruits will automatically come out. Children learn how
to react and respond to situations from their teachers (us). When children see the fruit of the Spirit
(spoken of in Galatians) manifested towards temptations that we are tempted with, they know how
to handle their own temptations better. Children become like their teachers (us). Once there was a
very long gas line in the 70’s and people had to wait for more than an hour in line to get some gas.
Some people became very upset at the wait and tempers began to fly. Rudeness set in, cars tried
to cut in front of each other and so on. But as children sat in the cars waiting as well, they would
see first hand either people yielding to sins and stress, or yielding to the Holy Spirit who would
bring peace in the midst of the trial. That is what we want to exhibit to our children, that example of
peace. Our children are our disciples. We need to become better disciples of Jesus so that we
can manifest love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, self-control which are all
fruits of the Spirit.
Older women are to teach the younger women. Disciple them to love their husbands and their
children, to be keepers of the home and obedient to their husbands.
Children are used as instruments by God to convict us at times. Sometimes it comes as a direct
word. Like, they may say something to us that we do not like to hear, but they are speaking
innocently by observing a wrong characteristic in us. They are not intentionally being disrespectful
at times, but their observation sometimes just blurts out. We then at that point need to stake stock
and listen to what they just said. Asking ourselves, is that really what I am doing, said, think,
behave like? We should not always harden our hearts because they are children, and children are
not supposed to say anything to their parents that might convict them. When we are wrong, we
need to recognize it, repent and apoligize.
They may be an EXAMPLE to us through their right conduct and bring conviction to our hearts. We
see their purity of motive, their unselfishness and perhaps their generosity, which might convict us if
we struggle in any of these areas.
All parents wrong their children in one way or another. We all say things out of a mean spirit
sometimes that hurt them, and sometimes we misjudge their motives for doing something. When
we do either of these things, we must be quick to repent, not only to the Lord but also to the child
that we have hurt. We need to not only pray for forgiveness for our sin, but also that God will erase
the damage we did to the child’s heart, if any, so the child will not be permanently affected by our
action or words. He will if we pray, repent and ask Him to. He is a very good Forgiver of those who
ASK. Children are very forgiving as well and they will also learn what to do when they make
mistakes or hurt someone themselves. They will learn to ask for forgiveness from God and from
others also. Because they see our humility in asking for forgiveness a deeper closeness can
develop between the two of you. We expect our children to apologize when they do things that are
wrong don’t we, well, so should we apologize to them if we have wronged them as well. Fruits of
the Spirit can grow in us as this type of honesty and humility is exhibited.
Pray for guidance and wisdom. Solomon prayed that he might be able to have wisdom and an
understanding heart in order to rule his people well. God gave him both, and He will give us the
same thing if we pray for it. James says, “If any man lack wisdom let Him ask of God.” We need to
do this in order to handle each situation that comes our way with God’s wisdom. We also need to
learn to be flexible in methods of training and yield to His leading as He shows us how to parent our
children. It is one of the hardest things we will ever do, being a parent, because it requires so much
WISDOM that we lack in the natural, but with God’s help, we can be instruments in HIS hands to
raise these children for Him and His glory!
All of these things are part of creating a home with an atmosphere of love, peace, joy and
contentment amongst the family members, and you have a very big role in this.
May the Lord bless and guide you as you pray for His help to create (build) your home for Him and
His glory.
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